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وأسعـــد الله أوقاتكــــم جميـــعاً

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Many students ask questions in English which are very direct and about things that are very personal to some people. These questions are often about things such as money, age or weight. They can also be about personal relationships. Some people are comfortable talking about these things, and some people are not. If you want or need to ask a person about these things, it can seem very rude. One way to soften the question is to add “if you don’t mind my/me asking” at the beginning. X

For example

كثيراً ما يسأل الطلاب - والناس عموماً- عن أمور خاصة وبطريقة مباشرة قد توقعهم في حرج وهذه الأسئلة في الغالب تتعلق بأمور شخصية مثل العمر ، الوزن ، المال..... إلخ البعض لا يمانع في الإجابة على هذه الأسئلة والبعض الآخر يرفض الإجابة مثلي في اللغة الإنجليزية إن أردت أن تسأل عن هذه الأمور الشخصية فقل قبل السؤال

If you don't mind my/me asking

والتي تعني لو أذنت لي بالسؤال/ هل تمانع لو سألتك؟


If you don’t mind my/me asking, how old are you
If you don’t mind my/me asking, how much rent do you pay for your apartment
If you don’t mind my/me asking, how much money do you earn
If you don’t mind my/me asking, how much do you weigh
If you don’t mind my/me asking, are you satisfied with your marriage


As you can probably imagine, many people would be shocked by such questions, but they seem less direct if you add “if you don’t mind my asking” at the beginning. Now, the person who is being asked can respond in a positive way. For example


و إن كنت ممن لا يمانعون في الإجابة فقل لا أمانع ثم أجب


No, I don’t mind. I’m 99 years old
I don’t mind telling you. I pay $950 a month for my place


The person who is being asked can also respond in a more negative way

ولكن انتبه فقد يرفض بعضهم الإجابة وتسمع منه ما لا يرضيك

Well actually, I’d rather not talk about that
That’s none of your business

In these examples, the first one is very polite, but the second one shows the person is angry and shocked about the question

Of course, it’s best to avoid asking such personal questions but, if you have to, this ex-pression can help you make it sound much softer

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بهذا أكتفي ، والله ولي التوفيق
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<h2 align="center">نآمل من الله عز و جل أن نقدم الجديد النافع
تحياتي وتقديري

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